EDITORIAL NOTEBOOK

You don’t need to feel down

How cheering others up can cheer yourself up

There is too much. Too much looking in the mirror for what isn’t there instead of realizing it doesn’t need to be. Too much of this; too much of that. Too much half empty and not enough “that’s just right.” For all the people in the world, there’s already enough down in the dumps for you to be there too.

Now, you may not agree with me. You might say, “Stephanie, you’re crazy! You don’t know me! You don’t understand how terrible my life is. My life stinks, so I’m sad.” And I would say, “That may be the case, but I’m here to help.” What if you weren’t the sad one anymore? What if you told yourself that you were going to be the one who made people happy? Because I’ll be honest— it’s fun as heck being the one who makes people laugh and smile.

It makes me sad that there are so many people I interact with on a daily basis who can’t see the good in any situation. Too much complaining. Too much self-depreciation. Too much looking at what went wrong and not at what they can do better next time.

So what if your spinach soufflé tasted a little too salty? Make it better next time! Who cares if you have to rewrite your homework if you did it wrong? Wouldn’t you want it to be correct? Sometimes, I feel as though people are looking at the wrong side of the cloud and then get upset when they can’t find the silver lining. “But Stephanie, there must be a better way!”

And there is. I’m one of those people that likes to smile and laugh all the time, and I wish there were more of us. Maybe some days are too much for me; I’m tired, I’m busy, I’m bored. Things didn’t go my way today. But, when I get the chance to be myself and do funny voices or make dumb jokes or do something that makes someone else smile, my day lights back up.

Those of you who do find yourselves complaining about or upset by the smallest things may think that’s just how you are. You may feel lost or like you should give up and let yourself be upset. Maybe you don’t realize it. Maybe you can’t tell that you are as happy as you would like and you don’t know how to change that. You are not alone. At least, I don’t think you are. Because, as corny as it may sound, I’m here for you.

Well, sort of. I don’t know you. Maybe I do, but mostly likely I don’t. Although if you are down, or feel sad and like there’s not much you can do about it, there’s nothing I would like more than to cheer you up. Maybe you don’t want to cheer up. And that’s okay. But I have always liked making friends more than just about anything. So if I can’t cheer you up, I’ll settle for making you my friend.