I would like to take this opportunity to extend, on behalf of the entire student body, our deepest sympathies to the family, friends, and ones touched by the life of Robert Svensson. The loss of a loved one at such a young and promising stage of his life leaves many questions unanswered. However, it is important to remember Robert in the positive times of his life, and to communicate this with others who shared similar experiences with him. For those seeking further guidance and assistance, the Chapel and Cultural Center, Health Center and Dean of Students Office are prepared to provide such services.
On a loosely related note, often I utilize the words of great historical figures to provide insight and move through both joyous and troublesome times in my life. Confucius has lent words of wisdom on many an occasion and for this week’s column, the great Chinese teacher, philosopher and political theorist appears most apropos. Much can be learned from his quote: "To put the world right in order, we must first put the nation in order; to put the nation in order, we must first put the family in order; to put the family in order, we must first cultivate our personal life; we must first set our hearts right."
For me, I understand a view of the steps necessary to attain both personal and career success starts internally, with care first given to the mind, body, and soul. We all reach stages when the challenges we face—whether assumed or imposed—seem insurmountable. The prepared individual, however, will deal with these challenges well, and in a fair order of priority. By prepared, I speak of a person who recognizes their extension and limits, while allowing for activities vital to avoiding breakdowns, or paralysis of decision-making capabilities.
Daily, we are all faced with choices and pressures that create both stress and opportunities for us. Whether or not to attend class, what to wear to work, where to attend graduate school are just a few. For each, it is perfectly normal and, as Confucius says, important to settle matters within first before making a decision or choosing a path. Personal integrity can govern one’s class attendance while preference will guide another’s attire. But even a seemingly small decision like what outfit to wear can be affected by what I call "brain congestion."
Brain congestion—which I claim a chronic case of—has been noticed by my friends when I wear wind pants, a hoodie, and a hat (untraditional garb for me) on days I am overloaded with work and/or too tired to put something else together. Here, my mood as a result of mounting work and depleted sleep is literally worn on my sleeve. Unfortunately, more significant internal strife, such as divorcing parents, can have magnified impact on one’s disposition and commitment to established values. In this instance it would be tragic to see a student’s academic endeavors take a blow and not rebound as a result.
So what should that student do? As was recommended to me by the Lally School’s own Frank X. Wright my sophomore year, go sit on a mountain. In retreating from the pending situation, he would be able to step away (mentally, if not physically) from the emotions and anxieties associated with the break-up of his parents. Once clear in the mind and after considering what goals have been worked toward and are in reach, he may decide to trim some of his responsibilities or commitments to ensure accomplishing the priorities (cope with divorce, graduate). Within the new plan, all of the relevant givens are to be considered and addressed, so as to not short-change either aspect of the situation—family or academic. Thus a refocused plan emerges, aimed at tending to family matters with care, while achieving academic success and a degree. More importantly, reckless decision making and a downward spiral are avoided.
Hopefully this food for thought will stimulate some personal growth and accelerated progress toward goals. Even if it only gets the juices flowing in your mind, I have accomplished something. Have a great Hump Day and please enjoy the spring break. See you on campus and in the snow!
