If sex were a book, the Guide to Getting It On would be its Cliff’s Notes. It does not cover everything there is to know, but it does cover everything you need to pass the test. Pulling from his psychologist background, author Paul Joannides focuses more on the psychological implications of sexuality. Although primarily aimed at a heterosexual and monogamous audience, everyone can benefit from what lies between the covers.
The book covers everything from hand-jobs to masturbation to vibrators to the history of the bra. With such a broad scope, however, it does not devote a lot of attention to any one topic. This is not an oversight since Joannides supplements almost every chapter with recommendations of one or more topic specific books or resources that offer much more comprehensive information.
All of the information presented is written in a very approachable and entertaining manner, and it often induces a chuckle or two. It refrains from being a chore or a bore to read, and certain chapters would prove beneficial and exciting for two lovers to explore together and experiment with.
If you are looking for a book that will give you the latest and greatest sex positions to try, or a book on how to pick up one-night-stands, this is not that book. On the other hand if you want to become a better lover with a partner you deeply care about, then this is the book for you.
Joannides maintains that it is this emotional connection which makes sexual intimacy such a wonderful and special thing. The most important point made, which is made in just about every other paragraph, is that communication is key.
One must be willing to discuss his wants and desires with his partner. That is not to say that the partner must bow down to these wants, but the openness creates even greater intimacy and usually a more rewarding sexual experience.
However, you should never pressure your partner, nor should you feel pressured to do anything which makes you uncomfortable. Sex is meant to be a mutually enjoyable experience.
Contrary to what magazines like Maxim and Cosmopolitan say there is no end all sex position or technique that will drive any lover you come across into sexual ecstasy, so you won’t find one in this book (as the long section on anatomy discusses, everyone is different and what may be right for one may not be right for others.)
Instead, Joannides gives this simple and logical advice: ask your partner what works for him/her, and should he/she not be forthcoming, explore his/her body and let his/her reactions (both verbal and physical) guide you. There are some techniques offered as a starting point for people with little experience or confidence.
In the end the Guide to Getting It On is an essential reference for anyone involved in, or thinking of getting involved in a sexual relationship. For more information about the book visit
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