Those at risk of suicide are feeling depressed, hopeless, and isolated. You can help someone break this pattern by approaching them with a show of genuine concern. For example, “I’ve noticed you’ve been feeling down for a while. I’m concerned about you. Is there anything I can do to help?”
If they dismiss your impression as being inaccurate, just respond with something like “Good, I’m glad you’re okay. If there ever is something upsetting you I’m around if you need me.” Just knowing that someone cares can make all the difference.
If they do admit to feeling depressed, don’t be afraid to ask “Are you thinking of killing yourself?” The more specific a plan one has for suicide the higher the risk.
If the person does sound like they are considering suicide the first thing to do is just listen, encouraging the person to express their feelings. It is important to acknowledge your understanding of their feelings. Don’t try to minimize it by voicing platitudes such as “Things will get better,” “Look at the bright side,” or “You have so much to live for.” Such statements will make the person feel that you haven’t understood what they are experiencing, which will add to their feeling of isolation.
Try instead to put into your own words what you hear them saying about how they feel (i.e. “You’re saying it hurts so badly you’d rather not wake up in the morning,” etc.).
Remove or get them to give up anything that could be immediately lethal. This will reduce the likelihood of an impulsive suicidal act, and communicates your concern and willingness to intervene.
If you find the person has a timetable or a plan, take it seriously. Don’t leave them alone or be brushed off by “I’m okay now.”
Keep the person talking about what is bothering them and direct them towards getting professional help right away. If the person is a Rensselaer student have them call the Counseling Center (276-6479), or call our office yourself.
Someone can be reached from the Counseling Center 24 hours a day by calling Public Safety at 276-6611. If it is during office hours, walk the student over to us. If the person is not a Rensselaer student, contact someone in his or her community (emergency mental health line, family, clergy, doctor). It is better to risk the person being angry at you for violating a confidence, than to have the person kill themselves.
